If you remember-to-remember God guides your life, you're on your way to a happier, more serene existence — even when He sends you hard times to refine your character.
But if you prefer secularism, and you believe your desires are more important than God's desires for you, it's likely you and God will be in conflict — sometimes painfully so — until humility slows you down long enough to consider your options:
Option 1: Continue to believe you decide your fate, claiming the right to live as you like, respecting the virtues of status, wealth and power, following the path of ego, pride and desire.
Option 2: Add some courage, learn about what God wants from the Jews, and re-invent yourself — the way of heroes and leaders.
In the meantime, even if God just doesn't seem "real" yet — behave as if He's real. Learn to want what God wants.
You can't get around God.
He created the entire universe,
Yet, God holds back (hides) His awesome power & presence so people — like us — can exist, and retain our freedom of will to do good, and not do evil. Doing what God wants (Mitzvot) brings merit to us and stability to the world.
and continues to will that it exist,
so He must be greater and more powerful
than all forces in this world combined.